Nurtured Not Tortured Part 3

Posted By Fèyísìtàn

Abusers are usually very controlling and manipulative. Some of them are toxic liars, they'll say derogatory things about you to unsuspecting ignorant listeners in order to gain sympathy, or even play victims so others will hate you and blame you and for the things they've done wrong. They will likely take extreme measures to protect themselves and use people to validate their stories. They're experts at turning people against one another causing distrust and dislikes amongst mutual friends, family or business partners in order to gain control and feel good about themselves. If in business with such persons be prepared to loose money, friendship and be involved in consistent conflict resolution.

To abusers, life is a game; it's a win or loose scheme where there is no balance in acts. You must agree to anything they do whether good or bad. When challenged or confronted you'll often be asked ..''whose side are you on?'' followed by physical violence or angry outburst.When you don't support or agree to their actions or decisions, you'll be fast promoted to 'enemy number one'. Worst still if you make an independent decision, they can't handle that either. You're practically forbidden from expressing your feelings, opinions or interests and if stated at all, will certainly be dismissed.The reality is,you just don't matter. It's a one way relationship.

Abusers can be egocentric, often not showing any sense of remorse or admitting they've wronged you so don't expect any apology but more justification of their actions. If you're lucky enough to get an apology, it'll be accompanied by a blame or a promise that'll probably never be kept....''It won't happen again'' or ''It's not what you think'' or ''You made me do it''.... tough..but true. As a target no matter what you do, it'll never be enough.It's a plot to make you feel inadequate, unsure of yourself and always trying to measure up.

Abusers have a consistent need to be in control, they can't be alone and  must have someone as a target to feed that need of power and superiority. It's one of the reasons they're often promiscuous. Don't be surprised if as a target when you keep your distance, set boundaries or leave them, before you even blink they'll be quick to find another target usually the weakest link from their archive of many and the cycle goes on.

If you've experienced or currently experiencing any or all of these, this is the part where you understand that you have been or are being manipulated. That's a form of emotional abuse. Unlike physical abuse which is easily identified emotional abuse is elusive. It takes series of experience to get a grip of the situation. You loose your mind, you loose your life! Emotional abuse will eat anyone up faster than any disease, it leads to mental breakdown, emotional turmoil, self doubt, hopelessness, depression and the likes.It's the reason many have become depressed or residents in psychiatric homes and hospitals.These days where almost everything is linked to cancer one can't be careful enough. Guard your mind.

Abuse will continue as long as you allow it to. You could be in a difficult situation depending on the relationship you have with the abuser. Difficult but not hopeless. Regardless seek wise counsel and get some help. Knowledge is power. Be informed! Never Give Up on yourself. #GodLovesYou

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Fèyísìtàn


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